You are feeling dreary on the dating scene, you want to look for a partner but you are too cautious to make a move, your previous experiences have just stumped you, fret not any longer, a relationship coach can guide you in your love life. A coach can help you untangle the cobwebs you have put yourself in through aspiring to be in a relationship but not hustling enough in that direction for your previous uninspiring experiences. Here are a few dating tips from a relationship coach that can help you tread the path to finding love:
Clear your Expectations
Be clear about your expectations are from the date. Are you open to a relationship or just want to casually see someone, or it is just a hook-up for some carnal fun? The rule of engagement of the dating shall differ accordingly. Are you looking for some solace after a recent breakup on a rebound? Or Its just some hot action you are envisaging? You can be a bit flamboyant and address your immediate desires without being too orthodox. Make yourself comfortable at the obvious places of meeting a partner such as bars or night clubs and respectfully but brazenly ask for what is on your mind. However, if you are you looking for a partner to be in a long-term relationship, then you may need to follow some tips from your relationship coach viz:
Shed the Baggage
Look for dating a partner for long term relationship with a balanced state of mind. If you are just recovering from a heartbreak, take time to disengage with the emotions of hurt and loss. Give yourself some time to let your body and mind rejuvenate. Reclaim who you are and review how you feel. If still overwhelmed, your relationship coach may advise that it may not be a good idea to look for a long-term relationship. If that is the case, you will end up appearing a lot needier in the relationship putting a lot of stress and added burden on your would-be partner to clean up your psychological baggage. That would not be deemed as a healthy or normal start of the relationship. Start from a strong foundation of emotional stability to look for fruitful relationships.
Act Interested not Curious
Start with a friendly conversation with your date. It is flattering to observe your mate showing keen interest in you but keep it in the periphery of a civilized and engaging one on one. Do ask share usually known facets of your lives such as aspirations, interests, vocations, friends, and trends. But do not be curious about your date’s past relationships, bank balance, sexual tendencies (until encouraged), and familial associations. Also don’t act like a buttonholing bore by asking about the run-of-the-mill stuff such as the route numbers of the public transport they take for the daily commute or the work timings.
Assess your Feelings after the First Date
You had your first date just think dispassionately about the date. How you feel after the first date is the key to your next steps regarding your prospective partner is concerned. Recall and make a mental note of a few things and try to answer these questions:
Did you feel attracted to your partner?
Did you feel that your conversations transgressed the boundaries of a few hours without your inkling?
Would you like to go on another date with the same person again?
Did you guys kissed or felt like kissing or progressing towards sexual contact?
If the answers to most of the above questions is a “YES” then it appears you are well on track to unveiling a long-term mate.
Engage your Friends
You are blinded by the emotion of finding a new love interest and are head over the heels with a newly found mate. All the affairs between you and your new partners appear to be hunky-dory and you guys may be missing out on observing the obvious omissions. Fall back on your trusted coterie of friends, engage with them, introduce your partners. They will surely not refrain from giving you the correct advice without bias. They are your well-wishers without benefits, and you can expect some tongue-in-cheek musings from them.
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